How to keep sane in times of despair? Approach to tackle the disease. I tend to differ in opinion from those who think that you need to push the refresh button when the situation is hitting shallow waters. Instead it should be done on a timely basis. Get up, walk, run and stop! Look, observe, realize, analyze and learn! Proceed! Following this activity as a routine check-up detects the disease at a very early stage. A self reliant person can quickly get to the root of the signs and pluck it before it strengthens its grip.
Considering the intensity of our involvements in the more frivolous aspects in our lives, this minimal effort is nothing more than a piece of writing. Lets us examine the major and minor categories of involvements and our treatment towards them. When I think about happiness I think about sex and satisfaction. I would like to replace the word sex with ‘loov making’ as I believe without feelings a sexual experience isn’t absolute. This is one of our major involvements that should be treated with respect. Don’t do it because humans have this natural instinct. Focus more on the quality than the quantity. Trust me it can do wonders. (Doesn’t mean to decrease the count). Make ‘loov’ with somebody whom you think is worthy of it. Such a discretionary choice is vital to ensure realization of the fulfillment of your hidden and most sensitive feelings. I find myself under-equipped to define them. My attempt to do so suggests relief from the never ending instances of pain, trust upon trust of your partner for you and immense pleasure.
The art of capitalizing satisfaction requires a keen interest for life in general. This may include frequent and short term activities and rare and long term activities. The focus is more on the latter because they are prominent and consolidated. This is acceptable unless the former isn’t skimmed out. This idea is only a reinforcement of the bare facts of life that ironically we manage to ignore. Satisfaction is stamped as a destination and there is a constant effort to reach it via various materialist and emotional paths. We fight, hurt our own people, become selfish and arrogant and try to use all possible measures to reach the goal. And as we come closer to the goal we rappel even faster from the reality to illusion. An illusion that shouts “satisfaction guaranteed”.
The harder we try the more difficult it gets. Drawn swords are for the war to save the little satisfaction that one might get in making efforts to sustain it.
Hey! Do you ever feel an urge to talk to a street urchin or a stranger? Travelling in a taxi or plane, does it feel nice to initiate a smile to the fellow traveler? Due to some odd mental block you choose to ignore these urges. Just the way we ignore the importance of loov and compassion in our lives. How we let our ego dominate our senses and prohibit even diminutive exploitation of small moments of joy. Tease your lover and show her your loov. Tell her that you can do anything for her, even if you guys have been lighting your ego lamps for months now. Tickle your dad, buy him some nice liquor and share a drink with him. Light his cigarette. Carry your mom’ s purse for a change. Say thank you to your domestic help when he/she gets you a glass of water. Its common mistake that letting go means cheating on your partner to find satisfaction.
Satisfaction lies within and it’s the cause and remedy for stress. It begets happiness. A satisfied soul is happy.
Adverse conditions aren’t in our control, tackling them is. A friend of mine told me that if you feel trapped think of your life as a movie and be an observer to yourself. Also articles like these come in handy in troubled waters. And you are a lucky man if surrounded by a bunch of well wishers in the form of friends and family. Every man fights his own battle. And you shall fight till you are dead. Play it like a video game. It’s more fun.
